If pity parties are pitiful, and they are, how do we avoid them?
1--Change your attitude about pity parties.
What I would hope is that you will get really fed up with pity parties, as you see how much damage they are doing to you and to everyone around you. Ask God to give you holy anger about pity parties, to see them as He sees them, and to get sick and tired of feeling sorry for yourself.
2--Refuse to think about the bad reports; think only about the good reports!
In Philippians 4:8 we are told to think about things that are of a good report. Usually when we are having a pity party, we are thinking about some bad report. It has helped me greatly to tell myself over and over again, when I'm tempted to feel sorry for myself, "Mary, stop thinking about the bad reports. Think about some good reports."
3--Think about Jesus and all that He endured.
Hebrews 12:2 says "Let us fix our eyes on Jesus..." By a set of your will, stop thinking about poor me, and think about Jesus–fix the eyes of your heart on Him. Think about how He suffered such awful indignity and pain for you, and you will be embarrassed to feel sorry for yourself when you compare your situation to His.
4--Get busy doing something constructive.
Don't just sit there; do something! This is one time you need to get involved in constructive activity that will take your mind off of your hurt feelings and shut down that pity party.
5--If you have something against someone else, either go to them and get it out in the p pen, or put it behind you.
Here's a good suggestion: Write down on a piece of paper exactly what is bothering you, how your feelings have been hurt, and what you would like to say to that person. Then wait two days, and pray for wisdom.
After two days re-read it, and if you still believe you should go to that person, then decide how to tell the truth in love, make sure you're not acting in anger, and go at an appropriate time.
If you're not willing to do that, or it no longer seems that important, tear up that piece of paper and say to the Lord, "I'm putting this behind me; it is in the past and You will take care of it from this point on." The worst thing in the world is to keep brooding about it. Either do something or put it behind you
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